A Power In Silence For The World That Adores Noise
“In an extroverted society, the difference between an introvert and an extrovert is that an introvert is often unconsciously deemed guilty until proven innocent.”
― Criss Jami, Venus in Arms
Are you an introvert? Or have acquaintances with an introvert traits ? What do you think about an introvert? Usually, people will think that an introvert is a quiet, unfriendly, and aloof person. Do your assumptions is the same as the stereotypes that have been pinned by many people to introverts? These assumption has two answers, true and false.
In general, an introvert will talk less, they think more and construct ideas in their head, only then they will speak. The ability to socialize and speak is important for introverts, because they often cannot express what is on their mind as a whole and completely to their listeners. But one thing we need to understand, an introvert is not a quiet person.
The thought of introverts is a quiet people can not be separated from the role of the media in our lives. In the book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking written by Susan Cain, it is said that the advertising world often markets its products to give confidence to its customers, so they can do extraordinary things and high regarded by the society. This unconsciously makes us think that we must be become a prominent person to do great and extraordinary things to be accepted by society.
This unconsciously makes us think that we must be become a prominent person to do great and extraordinary things to be accepted by society.
The characteristics that are highlighted in advertisements by the media are often associated with extrovert characteristics, thus creating stereotypes in society if extrovert characters are better than introverts. Quiet and shy traits are often considered bad in society, so that many people take effort to “reshape” their personalities to be cheerful, easy-going, and full of confidence.
Whereas in fact, introverts are people who gather energy from within themselves, so it is only natural for them to have their own time to recharge. On the other hand, extroverts gather energy from social interactions with other people, so it is only natural that extroverts like to socialize. What often becomes a misconception is that introverts are quiet and shy, in fact introverts are people who are confident but don’t want to be the center of attention, they prefer to be behind the scenes. Because, when they become the center of attention their energy will quickly be sucked away.
On the other side, when extroverts are in a state called high stimulation by Cain, if they receive too high stimulation they also need time to be alone to reduce the stimulation, conversely, when introverts receive low stimulation they will come out looking for “spotlight”. Thus, both introverts and extroverts need to adjust their stimulation to be balanced so that they can use their energy efficiently.
However, this world already thinks that the extrovert personality is better.
However, this world already thinks that the extrovert personality is better. Often times when introverts and extroverts work together, people with extroverts tend to be more domineering and prominent, stifling the creativity and performance of introverts. If given space and opportunity, introverts will not lose to extroverts. For example, you must know a woman named Eleanor Roosevelt, the wife of Franklin D. Roosevelt, the famous president of the United States. It is said that Eleanor is introverted, shy, and sensitive, even though she is an introvert, when needed, Eleanor will step forward to act.
Eleanor changed the role of a first lady from a symbolic role to be actively involved in the political vortex of the United States and the world, she helped Franklin in carrying out diplomacy with other countries. And also to speak out for the role of women for industrial advancement in the United States, the civil rights of African-Americans and Asian-Americans, and the rights and protection of World War II refugees. What Eleanor does, counters to what is being advertised by the media, that we have to be extroverts to do extraordinary things.
It becomes dangerous and unhealthy when an introvert is forced to become an extrovert because of environmental pressure. A person who is forced to have a personality that is not his genuine traits will experience mental stress, unhappiness, and confusion with his personality. Supposedly, we provide space for introverts such as in research and interviews conducted by Cain on a company, where employees are given cubicles and a special room to work alone, which ultimately improves the performance of introverted employees.
In general, introverts have good analytical skills and can read situations quickly, so that if given a task that requires high analytical power, an introvert tends to solve it well. This finding can be a consideration for companies in making policies and implementing a corporate culture that provides opportunities for introverted employees.
Another assumption that introverts are antisocial who do not like to hang out also needs to be straightened out, they will still hang out but respect the privacy of each other, anyway when they receive low stimulation they will come out of their zone to socialize. An introvert is also a great listener. For those of you who want to find answers to your problems, try to share your problems with introverts, they will be happy to listen to your complaints and provide solutions to your problems.
Being an introvert is not a weakness that must be covered up.
Being an introvert is not a weakness that must be covered up. There is nothing wrong with being an introvert, both introverts and extrovert have their respective advantages. These two traits have their way of achieving success. If you are an introvert, all you have to do is accept and remain yourself, there is no need to try to be an extrovert. As for those of you who are extroverted, make space for introverts because we are losing huge resources of talent, vision, and creativity because of our cultural overvaluation of extroversion.